Sunday, August 10, 2014

Chalice Circle Session Plan for September 2014


Bellingham Unitarian Fellowship
Chalice Circle Topic for September 2014
Community
Adapted from the Main Line Unitarian Church, Devon, PA September 2004

Gathering and Welcoming (2 minutes)

Opening Words & Chalice Lighting: From Henry Nelson Wieman
“Religious faith is basically an act—the act of giving one’s self into the keeping of what commands faith, to be transformed by it, and to serve it above all.  More specifically, it is the act of deciding to live in the way required by the source of human good [and] to maintain association with a fellowship practicing that commitment….”

Check in/Sharing (3-4 minutes each—30-40 minutes)
(The facilitator should briefly remind the group of confidentiality/anonymity, that this is not the time for cross conversation, etc.)

Topic Discussion: Community (60 minutes)

Focus Readings:  From Raymond Baughan
"We deceive ourselves if we think we can be grasped by life's meaning, or a sense of the holy, before we find and are found by our fellow human beings. There is no sense of the sacredness of life, no sense of the holiness of sheer existence that does not come first through an­other person. Human encounter is common: human acceptance is rare. Religious community is people reaching through all the facades people carefully place around them‑people embracing people where they live and struggle, what Henry Nelson Wieman calls 'creative interchange.' The most radical contribution religion can make to human living is that it enables people to experience community as starkly as hunger.... Where life has a chance, we are in caring and in mutual need. When we are most alive, we are in the presence of someone or something intensely with us.... Nothing is experienced except in relation. It is participation in a religious community that stabs our consciousness into this awareness in the midst of a society that knows nothing about it."

From Anonymous: “No child can escape her community…. The life of the community flows about her, foul or pure; she swims in it, goes to sleep in it, and wakes to the new day to find it still about her.  He belongs to it; it nourishes him, or starves him, or poisons him; it gives them the substance of their lives.”

Focus Questions:
(you may wish to pose all of these questions and let people choose which ones to respond to or you can choose some that will make your discussion more focused)
a.     What different communities have affected you and how?
b.     Which communities have you felt closer to and why?
c.     What has been your experience of your work, school, and neighborhood communities?
d.     What has been your experience of this church community?
e.     In what way might you say your experience here is religious/spiritual?


Checkout/Likes and Wishes
(This is the time for facilitators to ask participants what they liked about this meeting and what they might wish for future meetings.  This is also the time for any discussion of logistics.)

Closing Words & Extinguishing Chalice:  From Howard Thurman
“A strange necessity has been laid upon me to devote my life to the central concern that transcends the walls that divide and would achieve in literal fact what is experienced as literal truth; human life is one and all [people] are members of one another.  And this insight is spiritual and it is the core of religious experience.” 

Chalice Circle Session Plan for August 2014


Bellingahm Unitarian Fellowship
Challice Circle Topic for August 2014
“HAPPINESS
Adapted from First Unitarian Universalist Society of Burlington, Vermont, by Adam Bortz

Welcome and Gathering

Chalice Lighting and Opening Words
Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself:   I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn't arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I'm going to be happy in it.    Source:  Groucho Marx

Check-in/Sharing:  (3-4 minutes each- 30-40 minutes)

Opening Readings:
No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change.             Source: Barbara de Angelis
I cannot believe that the purpose of life is to be "happy." I think the purpose of life is to be useful, to be responsible, to be compassionate. It is, above all, to matter and to count, to stand for something, to have made some difference that you lived at all.                                    Source:  Leo C. Rosten
If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy, and inspires your hopes.                                                                                  Source:  Andrew Carnegie
Happiness is not a goal; it is a by-product.                Source:  Eleanor Roosevelt

Aristotle maintained that Happiness (or a kind of flourishing) is the result of a moderate temperament regarding human virtues (dignity, for instance is finding the middle ground between arrogance or pomposity and self-deprecation), practical knowledge about how to live, favorable circumstances (at least a minimum of basic comforts), true friendships, and moral strength (follow through on what you know to be right or wrong).  In his view, one must be good (ethical) in order to flourish in the kind of happiness that is much more than a transient emotional state. He also thought true happiness was pretty rare. And he believed that it was (is) the purpose of human life.

Main Subject:  Tell us what “happiness” means to you personally.
  1. What does “happiness” mean to you?
  2. What makes you happy?
  3. Is happiness all it is cracked up to be?
  4. How do you share your happiness with others?
  5. What could be done to make the rest of the world share your happiness, if you so desire?


Feedback
Thank the group.   Ask what they liked in this session and what changes they would hope for.

Closing:
Duty to Man has replaced Duty to God.  It is the central point of Humanism.
                                                                            Source:  Rosalind Murray

The highest and best thing that man can conceive is a human life nobly and beautifully lived – therefore his loyalties and energies should be devoted to the arrangement of conditions which make this possible.  The sole issue is how to make this world a place conducive to the living of a noble human life, and then to help people in every possible way to live such lives.                Source:  Varieties of American Religion by John Dietrich

Wednesday, May 21, 2014

Chalice Circle Session Plan for June 2014

How We're Called...

This topic seemed especially appropriate for us following our decision to "call" Rev. Paul Beckel to be our new settled minister. 

Bellingham Unitarian Fellowship
Chalice Circle Topic for June, 2014
How We’re Called
Adapted from: Rev. Jan Carlsson-Bull for Circle Ministry at First Parish UU Cohasset, MA

Note: See the Chalice Circle Session Sequence for process guidelines.

Gathering, Welcoming (2 minutes)

Chalice lighting & Opening words (1 minute)
We gather again,
heeding a call to be
where we are,
who we are,
how we are—
nothing more, nothing less.

We gather again,
listening, watching,
speaking, reflecting:
Where are we?
Who am I?   Who are you?
How am I?  How are you?

We gather again,
responding.

Check-in/Sharing (3-4 minutes@ - 30-40 minutes)

Service ventures (10 minutes)
If you haven’t already done so, move toward your group’s focus for a service venture benefitting this congregation and a service venture benefitting our larger community.  

Topical Discussion (60 minutes)
First response—no cross talk
Cross-conversation—if time allows

Topic: How We’re Called
Consider the notion of call, pure and simple.   By the very reality that each of us is here in this world, we are called.  By the amazing grace that each of us has been born, we are called into this world.   We come with a polyglot of genetically wrought features, quirks, and inclinations and a not completely blank slate that rapidly fills.  Some of us learn quickly what pleases our parents and what doesn’t, how we rise or fall in a culture friendly or hostile to who we are and what we look like, and what we must do to “succeed” in the circumstances of our living.   Choice is relative.   Yet we are each entrusted at some point to the grace of a larger world, and we each must discern that still small voice that speaks our name from our inner depths and bids us to do and be who we have always been.  

Dr. Rosemary Chinnici is also Sister Chinnici, a member of the Sisters of Loretto, a Roman Catholic Religious order.   She is also a trauma specialist and a professor of pastoral care.   Rosemary addressed the notion of call in her ordination sermon for one of her former students at Starr King School of Theology:  “Every call lies at the intersection of the past we have inherited and the future we are creating.” 

Call is at the heart of who we have been and prophetic of who we are becoming.   Vocare is Latin for the verb, “to call.”   From it derives the term vocation.   Vocation, writes Quaker author and teacher Parker Palmer, is a melding of self and service, a fusion of inner depths with outer needs.   At its deepest level, vocation is an epiphany that goes something like: “’This is something I can’t not do, for reasons I’m unable to explain to anyone else and don’t fully understand myself but that are nonetheless compelling.’”   Some of us know this well, to be drawn onto a path because of reasons that don’t make complete sense, yet knowing that there is at last no other way if we are to honor who we are, if we are to become who we are.  “Before I can tell my life what I want to do with it," explains Palmer, “I must listen to my life telling me who I am.”  

Share the following questions and let people respond to the one that speaks to them or both… Let people know how much time they will have (have a timekeeper keep track).

1.      What was your first inkling of who you were called to be?  What was the source of this earliest sense of call, of who you might be in this world?  
2.      Share an experience of how your understanding of why you are in this life has changed since this earliest inkling.   Perhaps you have had many such experiences.   What is an experience that particularly stands out for you?

What concluding thoughts would you like to share?

Feedback (10 minutes)
Thank the group.   Ask what they liked in this session and what changes they would hope for.

Closing (1 minute)
Go blessed with the knowledge that you are you,
that you may be living a call you could never have predicted,
that you may be living a call long understood.

Go knowing that we are grateful and glad that you are who you are.

Chalice Circle Session Sequence

The following instructions are meant to be a guide for facilitating all sessions. The structure of the chalice circle is part of what makes it so meaningful to people.  Following this structure helps ensure success for your group.  Obviously, over time, groups will develop their own norms-- this is fine but I will still encourage you to follow this structure as much as possible!

Chalice Circle Session Sequence for Facilitators

The suggested sequence and time allocations spelled out below will help you who facilitate our Chalice Circle sessions to ensure that every participant will have a voice over the two-hour timeframe that comprises a Chalice Circle session.

Gathering, Welcoming (5 minutes)
During the first meeting of your group, you might want to offer clarification on questions that people have raised:
How long do the groups meet?   We’re asking that each of the initial groups commit to meeting at least through May.  At that time or before, you can each decide whether you want to continue in this group, move to another group, or not continue.
Why a designated facilitator and a co-facilitator?   As similar groups have met in other congregations, facilitators provide assurance that each person has a voice, that we stay on topic, and that we sustain respectful dialogue. There are exceptions; but this is the general learning.  The structure provided by facilitators is ultimately satisfying for everyone.
Introduce your co-facilitator.   Clarify that this person will step in if you can’t be there, and if additional congregants want to join groups and there aren’t enough open spaces, s/he stands ready to be the lead facilitator for this new group.
Where will we meet regularly?
This first meeting is at [facilitator or co-facilitator]’s home.   For our subsequent sessions, we’re asking that one of you volunteer to be a home host.   That’s all you have to do!   Don’t clean your house for us.  Don’t prepare refreshments.  Just open your door and welcome us in.   By the end of this evening’s session, I hope we’ll have a home host.
Covenant: All groups should have a current covenant—a set of agreed upon behaviors that will help establish the norms for your group. If this is the first time your group is meeting this is an important step. Create it in such a way that it can be reviewed every time you meet—perhaps you want a poster size copy of it—or maybe you want to laminate it—perhaps you make enough copies of it for everyone and it is something you read at the beginning of each session and you keep copies in your folder….
Service: All chalice circles are asked to participate in at least 2 service projects each year: one that benefits BUF and one that benefits the community.

“Business” matters (up to 10 minutes)
At year’s beginning, review/create Behavioral Covenants and session structures.
Later in the year, you’ll want to discuss and plan your service projects.

Chalice lighting (1-2 minutes)

Check-in/Sharing (2-3 minutes per person@ - 20-30 minutes)
Ask each person to share what’s on their mind and heart.   You may wish to have a timekeeper to gently remind anyone who moves beyond the allotted check-in time that their sharing is valued and we need to ensure a voice for everyone.   If the speaker persists, ask her/him firmly and respectfully to conclude.   IF as the sessions unfold, someone arrives who has had a particularly rending experience, decide as a group your willingness to give this person extra time.
NO feedback, NO cross-talk during this segment.  Simply be with each other in deep listening.



Discussion (60 minutes)
Introduce the topic and the questions (2 minutes)

Ask folks to pause and ponder this in a period of silence.  (2 minutes)

First response: Ask folks to register their initial thoughts—in random order, but with no feedback during this segment.

Then: Cross-conversation.  IF one person dominates, gently remind that person that we need to allow time for every group member to speak.

Conclude discussion with request for final statements/last thoughts on this topic—in random order, but with no feedback.

Feedback (5-10 minutes)
Ask participants what they liked about this session.  What would they change?  How?  
Take note during succeeding sessions of who isn’t present.  Let the other members know that you’ll follow up to determine if all is well or not.   Remind members that if they absolutely can’t make a session, to please let you know.  

Closing (2 minutes)


Note: Have copies of the session available for participants at the conclusion of each session, but don’t distribute them up front.  If someone asks about having an outline in hand, explain that we all tend to connect more freely when we’re not tied to a paper.


Thank you!  
Many people describe Chalice Circles as the most meaningful thing that happens at BUF.  Your leadership makes chalice circles possible!



Welcome Chalice Circle Facilitators!

I have decided to create a Chalice Circle Blog where I can post announcements and chalice circle session plans. I will also continue to email session plans to you but thought you might like a central place to look for them in case they get misplaced.

This will also be a great way for us to keep track of the topics we have covered.  I hope you find this helpful!

Cheers,
Crystal